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So you’re swiping and dating in the over-40 club? Cool, cool. But keep your eyes peeled for these tell-tale signs that scream “I’m not the one!” Here we go:

  1. Drama Junkies: If they’re always wrapped up in some sort of chaos, wave goodbye to your zen.
  2. Conflict Dodgers: Harmony’s great, but if they never face the music, you’ll end up in a silent dance.
  3. Perpetual Comedians: A laugh a minute is fun, but if they can’t get real, you’ll never connect on a deeper level.
  4. Armor Always On: If they can’t get vulnerable, you’re missing out on that emotional cuddle.
  5. Emotionally Allergic: They cringe at feelings? That’s not going to work when you need to talk heart-to-heart.
  6. Defensive Players: Constantly on guard? That’s a big nope for open and honest communication.
  7. Quick to Fume: If they’re lighting up faster than a birthday candle, it’s time to blow out that flame.
  8. Addiction Battles: Unless they’re actively in recovery, their battle with addiction isn’t yours to fight.
  9. Apology Allergic: Mistakes happen, but if they can’t own up, you’re not in a partnership, you’re in a solo mission.
  10. Blame Gamers: They point fingers at exes without self-reflection? That’s a carousel you don’t want a ticket to.
  11. Status Vague: If they’re dodgy about what you are to each other, it’s probably because they don’t want to commit.
  12. Love Bombers: Super intense, super fast? That’s a supernova waiting to happen—pretty, but destructive.
  13. Last-Minute Larrys: Always a plan B? Nope, you’re not a snack, you deserve the full meal with plans and all.
  14. Effort Missing: If you’re the one always driving the plans, they’re just a passenger on your love bus.
  15. Boundaries? What Boundaries?: If they can’t tell where they end and you begin, it’s not romance, it’s an invasion.
  16. Mixed Signal Senders: Hot and cold? That’s not a relationship, it’s a weather pattern.
  17. Tab Keepers: If they’re more tracking device than partner, that’s a trust issue in high gear.
  18. Secretive Sorts: No friends or family intros? That’s not a relationship stepping stone; it’s a stumbling block.
  19. Crazy Ex Catalog: They label all exes as “crazy”? Spoiler: You might be the next “crazy” entry in their list.
  20. Don’t Settle: Remember, your 40s are fabulous, and settling for these red flags isn’t on your to-do list!
  21. The Critic: If your date’s got a PhD in Judging Everything, including you, it’s time to say buh-bye. Nonstop criticism isn’t edgy—it’s just tiring.
  22. The Love Cynic: Hanging out with someone who’s all doom-and-gloom about love might seem like a bonding sesh, but really, where’s the fun in that? Look for someone who’s got hopes and dreams, not just eye rolls and sighs.
  23. The Non-Mover: So your date’s happy to keep things on a loop without taking the next step? Nope, you want someone who’s into growing with you, not just going with you.
  24. Gender Grudges: If they’re busy painting all men or women with the same “they’re no good” brush, it’s not just a red flag; it’s a sign to get moving.
  25. The Poker Face: Sure, talking about feelings can be tough, but it shouldn’t be like pulling teeth. You want and deserve someone who can actually say they’re into you.
  26. Fantasy Island Expectations: A date who thinks you’re going to live a flawless, conflict-free love story? Wake up—real love’s got its ups and downs, and that’s okay.
  27. Stuck in a Time Warp: If they’re still living in their high school glory days instead of planning a future with you, it’s a no-go.
  28. The Secret Agent: After a few dates, if you still have no clue what their day-to-day life is like, that’s weird. Sharing is caring, folks.
  29. The Clingy Companion: If they need constant reassurance, it’s not your job to be their personal cheerleader. They’ve got to sort out their own self-esteem stuff.
  30. Directionless Date: Someone who’s using you as their life GPS? No, thanks. You’re a partner, not a purpose-finder.
  31. The Makeover Artist: If they need you to change to love you, they don’t love you—they love some imaginary version of you. Hard pass.
  32. Mind Reader Required: Love shouldn’t come with a guessing game. If they can’t communicate what they want, it’s not on you to figure it out.
  33. The “No” Hater: If they can’t handle a “no,” they’re not mature enough for a “yes” to a healthy relationship.
  34. The Puppet Master: Controlling much? If they’re trying to direct your every move, it’s time to cut the strings.
  35. Isolation Station: Trying to cut you off from your squad? Big warning of bad news—love’s about sharing your life, not shrinking it.
  36. Opinion Dismissal: Your thoughts and feelings should matter. If they’re making you feel small, it’s time to stand up and walk away.
  37. The Unapproved By Friends: If your inner circle’s giving a thumbs down, maybe they’re seeing something you’re not. Time to take off the rose-colored glasses.
  38. The Compromise-Phobe: If you’re always the one bending backwards, you’re going to snap. Look for someone who meets you halfway.
  39. Double Standard Dude or Dudette: If there’s one rule for them and another for you, it’s unfair and uncool. Integrity is sexy.
  40. Guilt Tripper: Love shouldn’t feel like a guilt trip. You want to end your dates on a high note, not feeling like you owe them something.

So, dating in your 40s is like being a fine wine—you know what you like, what you don’t, and you’re not about to settle for a cheap knockoff. Go find that person who’s got the same zest for life as you, who’s learned from the past, and is all about making the future count. Remember, a few bad days can happen, but if it’s a pattern, it’s a problem. Keep those standards high—your soulmate won’t mind jumping to reach them!

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